WISE WORDS by Lynda Wise
37 Rockland Dr
Toronto, Ontario
M2M 2Y8
Lynda Wise, B.Sc., C.P.C.C.    
Personal Coach
Weight Loss and Wellness Coach
April 2006
Issue 12


What's in it for you?   A connection, some challenges, a few questions to encourage you to simply reflect about how you live your life versus how you want to live your life.   Feel free to share the answers with me:   I'd love to hear from you.   It's an opportunity to focus on where you'd like to change and grow.

  1. PERSONAL LIFE COACHING:   Coaching versus Therapy  
  2. IF YOU DON'T LOOK AFTER YOURSELF WHO WILL?   WANTED:  Two Ideal Coaching Clients.
  3. FOOD FOR THOUGHT AND THOUGHTS ON FOOD.  How not to eat the whole thing!
  4. THOUGHTS FROM MY SWING:   The joy from my swing.

1:  Coaching versus Therapy

Psychotherapy generally deals with emotional or behavioral difficulties often stemming from past, painful situations.   The client seeking out a therapist is often dealing with significant levels of anxiety and/or depression.   Often, the goal is for the client to be functioning at a more normal and/or productive level.   The therapist is the authority figure in the relationship and often remains neutral.   The obligation for the therapist is to be a compassionate listener, thus helping the client find his or her own answers.  The appointments are almost always in person.  
Coaching generally deals with people who wish to soar higher in their personal lives or careers.  The starting point for an individual before starting with a coach could range from being in a really stuck place to functioning at a very successful level.   Clients are usually mentally healthy people who are yearning for greater success and satisfaction, looking to leverage strengths and anxious to stretch beyond what's possible on their own.   The coach can be mentor and/or cheerleader:  the coach works alongside the client and together they create the relationship that is the catalyst for change.   The client is considered the expert on his/her life.   Most coaching appointments occur on the telephone while some are in person.

2:  WANTED:  Two Ideal Coaching Clients

I have space in my coaching practice for two clients.   Here's what I'm looking for:

Client #1:  Female, between the ages of 30 and 69, wanting to lose between 20 and 100 pounds forever.   She must be bright, fed up with dieting and willing and ready to create a new lifestyle.   She must have access to a computer and a bathroom scale.  She must be ready to give up on the concept of dieting, prepared to incorporate some kind of exercise in her life and must be committed to stick with the process until she is successful.

Client #2:   Male or female, no age restriction, who is tired of tolerating difficult relationships, a restrictive career or a variety of other personal issues and wants a better life.   She/he must be ready to let go of rigid perceptions and trust that she/he has the strength, capability and readiness to precipitate change.

For both positions, please apply to lyndawise@yahoo.com

3:   i.  How not to eat the whole thing!

Recently I was able to rejoice with a weight loss client because she ate just 3 potato chips (the name of the snack has been changed to protect the innocent).
With many restaurant portion sizes increasing exponentially as we speak, the pressure on us to exercise our own restraint grows.   The temptation expands.   The motivation to control gets tested and retested.  
Here are a few suggestions to support you in your efforts to say "enough".
  1. Select the amount that you wish to eat from a family sized bag or box.  Put your portion on a plate.   Seal the rest of the package thoroughly, with tape, elastic or whatever it takes to eliminate easy access.   Sit down; enjoy what's yours - end of that story.  
  2. If a restaurant is known for portions beyond your dietary need, request that they doggy-bag half before your order comes to the table.  
  3. An analysis of after dinner mints at several restaurants revealed large evidence of urine.   You might wish to think about that the next time you reach for an after dinner mint at a restaurant or any other communal bowl!  The chips and nuts at parties may not have quite so much magnetism now.  
ii.  The 12 Week Weight Loss Teleclass Starts THIS TUESDAY  

Recreate your lifestyle - lose weight - raise your self esteem - find a new and useful perspective on exercise - create a disconnect between food and stress - meet the support you need to make it happen - increase your 'happiness with yourself' index - improve your health - optimize your longevity!  
For more info:  lyndawise@yahoo.com or 416-225-3535.

4:   The Joy From My Swing:

When I hit a big fat birthday in 2004, I decided to buy myself my first ever birthday gift - and that's how I acquired the swing on my front porch.   At the time, it felt a bit self-indulgent - not my general pattern at all.   Relaxation is not my forte:  tools to enable relaxation are generally unimportant and uninteresting:   It was around $100.   But, somehow I recognized the outright pleasure that this two-seater garden swing would bring to me and various visitors.   I just did it.  
From April to October, it can be my reading place, my cat-napping place, my people-watching place, my thinking-about-this-ezine place, and my thinking-through-a-plethora-of-subjects-often-swimming-through-my-head place.  
No one minds waiting for me if I'm a few minutes late:  they actually express "no rush":   Also, it sets a lovely tone for a conversation.   And during the last week, with family visiting, the newest converted swinger was my calmed, 4 month old great-nephew in his grandmother's arms.  
So what's my point?   If you possibly can, once in a while do indulge yourself.   Sometimes it doesn't take much to provide much!   Try to really consider your wants before dismissing them.   You're worth it!

To arrange for a complimentary coaching call,
an interactive coaching workshop,
or a speaker for a meeting or a conference,
contact Lynda Wise at Wise Coaching
416-225-3535 or lyndawise@yahoo.com

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