Helping People Reshape their Baggage and their Bodies  

Lynda Wise B.Sc., C.P.C.C.  
Weight Loss and Wellness Coach

April '12
Issue 83

What's in it for you?  A connection, some challenges, a few questions to encourage you to simply reflect about how you currently live your life versus how you want to live your life.  Feel free to share your thoughts with me;  I'd love to hear from you.  This is an invitation to focus on where you'd like to change and grow.  

1.  PERSONAL LIFE COACHING:   A Different Perspective on Decluttering!

What's Driving You to Distraction?


1:  A Different Perspective on Decluttering

Last month "Decluttering your Space" and its liberating impact was the topic, (http://www.wisecoaching.ca/newsletters/ezine_Mar_2012.htm in case you missed it).

This month's focus is "Decluttering your Time".

When you've taken on a lot and are dealing with an overly full plate, life feels cluttered and the result is often overwhelm.  By nature, some people take on more and more and more and are often short changing themselves as they constantly say "yes" to too many opportunities as they become available.  Thus they say "no" to their personal needs.

The result/cost?  Stress, action paralysis, self doubt.........  and a plethora of other negative thoughts and emotions - including anger, frustration, lethargy and so forth.

If/when you find yourself in this state, here are just a few suggestions that will help you transition to a place of movement and calm:

  1. Ask yourself "What undertakings am I faced with right now, that I regret taking on?".   If you can, pinpoint a task or two, spend a few moments planning how you can postpone or eliminate them altogether and then take the action to remove them from your slate.

  2. Identify the time-wasters in your life.   Temptations are everywhere!   Games, even some books, computer activities, and TV, among others, offer countless hours of non-productivity.   In no way must you be 'serious' every moment of your day, but respect time proportions.   Sometimes bribery is a great tool: "when I'm finished 'this' I can play for 15 minutes".   It helps to be really conscious about how your time is spent.  How about journaling how you spend your time for a week or so?   Could be quite enlightening!

  3. Learn to say NO.   Start small and let the skill grow.   If you haven't done this much, it will be difficult to start, but I promise, well worth the effort to learn it in the long run.

  4. Let's face it: some friends, co-workers and family members drain our time.   Perhaps you can create a speech to use when someone launches at a bad time.
    Here's a possibility:
    "So sorry to interrupt you.   I'm feeling so totally overwhelmed right now.   This is so hard for me to say ...  since I'm really enjoying our time together, but how would you feel if we continued this conversation at another time?" Use your own words- it will feel more comfortable and will bring you control and freedom.
There are lots more time-saving techniques out there.   I'd suggest you start with these and I'd love to hear how they work for you!!!

And if you need more, please let me know!
lyndawise@yahoo.com or 416-225-3535

2:  What's Driving You to Distraction?

Individuals who eat their meals while watching TV consume, on average, 40% more than those who don't.   I've written about mindful eating in the past but it is a concept that warrants repeating.   Focusing on TV virtually eliminates focusing on your food.   By paying attention to each mouthful, you open the possibility of stopping when you're getting full rather than continuing to eat until the plate is clean.   No surprise - the same is true for eating while on the telephone, reading, texting, driving, etc!   In just 2 words - Pay Attention!   If weight is an issue for you, this could help significantly!   Try it ....  and let me know what you find!  

3:  Gutsy

Today I coordinated the Scrabble competition for the North York (part of Toronto) Senior Games.   The Senior Games are an annual happening offering opportunities for those 55 and over to participate and compete in a variety of activities, ranging from tennis to darts and to a wide range of about 30 sports and games, Scrabble being one of them.

I was extremely impressed with the folks who showed up - not because they were all fabulous Scrabble players, but because they were gutsy enough to be there.   Some were indeed fine players while others barely knew the rules.  

At the end of the games, some were winless: but there was no shame, self deprecation or whining (out loud that is).   Each and every player had a smile and a "thank you" and expressed that they'd had a good time.  

Pretty gutsy to participate, I'd say.  

How many times in your life have you missed out when you thought you weren't 'good enough'?

Wishing you what you wish for yourself.

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