Helping People Reshape their Baggage and their Bodies  

Lynda Wise
B.Sc., C.P.C.C.
Weight Loss and Wellness

April '13
Issue 95

What's in it for you?    A connection, some challenges, a few questions to encourage you to simply reflect about how you currently live your life versus how you want to live your life.  Feel free to share your thoughts with me;  I'd love to hear from you.  This is an invitation to focus on where you'd like to change and grow.  

On a 1-10 scale, where's your happiness?

Great excuses! or How ridiculous is this?

Who holds the Power?

1:  On a 1-10 scale, where's your happiness?

I recently had the pleasure of presenting a workshop to some of Toronto's most influential educators.  The group was comprised of principals and vice principals and the workshop was titled "Creating Your Best Life".  One of the most interesting tidbits concerned our personal happiness...  and in the following, I share a small sample of it with you.

Three factors determine our happiness.  The first factor is heredity!  Shockingly, it determines 50% of it.   Simply put, we have no control over half of our own happiness - our parents did it for us (or to us)!  But the other 50% -- that is, the second and third factors, breaks into two sections: 10% is about what we own, that is, our actual possessions, while 40% is about how we choose to react to the world around us, and what we choose to do.

So, having the fabulous house, car and cottage, to name a few, can help a bit to make us happy, but only in the short term.  The jazz of those new wheels feels fabulous when brand new, but gradually the thrill wears off.  That leaves us with the 40% determined by our conscious thoughts and actions - in work, play, physical activity, mental activity, self serving, serving others...   you get the drift - all our choices.   Everyone's values are unique.   Basically, when our thoughts and activities honour our values, we experience happiness.   For most people, a huge positive factor involves helping others both directly and indirectly.

One fundamental fact:  the first step toward increasing your happiness level is taking some time to think about what puts a smile on your face and what makes you feel good inside.  That consciousness of what really juices you allows you to make those choices that lead to overall contentment and happiness.

This is a tiny tease of info about happiness.  There's so much to share, but not in this brief format.  If you'd like a conversation about it, please feel free to contact me and arrange a complementary call.
lyndawise@yahoo.com or 416-225-3535

2:  Great excuses! or How ridiculous is this?

Chocolate comes from cacao beans and sugar can come from sugar beets.  Since beans and beets are vegetables, eating lots of chocolate or sugar has to be healthy.

It's a holiday.....one cannot be expected to diet every day.  (Every day is a holiday somewhere in the world.)

Similarly......how can birthday cake be unhealthy for me on my birthday?  It's only once a year!

I'm having a bad day. Surely all this stress is burning calories!  And who cares, anyway?

A tiny taste doesn't count.  How much harm could one mouthful do?

Might any of these sound familiar?

If you have time for a laugh check out the following YouTube: http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=cK_RMlY0PkA

And if you're serious about finally ditching the excuses and sensibly addressing this issue with a view to permanent weight loss, with upmost support and help, start with a complementary call: lyndawise@yahoo.com or 416-225-3535 to arrange it.

3:   Who holds the Power?

A friend of mine called me "bossy".  And I felt hurt.  Had I been bossy?  Yes - but I was kind of joking and for what I thought was a good reason.   I'd insisted - pretty persuasively - that she join a group that I was with instead of sitting by herself.  I wanted her to feel that she was totally welcomed.   Even though I thought my actions were appropriate, I still felt really upset by the "bossy" label and blamed myself for overstepping.

An hour or two later, I had a moment to rethink where I was at and soon realized that by feeling so very upset, I'd given away my own power.  This isn't new to me.  I know that someone cannot make me feel bad without my permission.  The funk that I landed in didn't serve me and was it deserved?...  who knows.

I definitely learned that my "bossy" would serve better if replaced by "encouraging" and everyone could benefit - at least with this particular dear friend.

Maybe, if you're feeling bad because of the comments of others, you can ask yourself "Who holds the Power?" and "How can I learn from this?" and then hopefully begin to feel better.

I'm wishing you whatever you wish for yourself!

*It will be my pleasure to treat you to a gift certificate for each referral who becomes a client!

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