WISE WORDS by Lynda Wise
37 Rockland Dr
Toronto, Ontario
M2M 2Y8
Lynda Wise, B.Sc., C.P.C.C..
Personal Coach
Weight Loss and Wellness Coach
416-225-3535
lyndawise@yahoo.com
http://www.wisecoaching.ca
December 2005
Issue 8

Welcome!

What's in it for you? A connection, some challenges, a few questions to encourage you to simply reflect about how you live your life versus how you want to live your life. Feel free to share the answers with me: I'd love to hear from you. It's an opportunity to focus on where you'd like to change and grow.

IN THIS ISSUE:
  1. Personal Life Coaching: THE FACTS OF LIFE COACHING : HO! HUM! IS IT REALLY TIME FOR NEW YEAR'S RESOLUTIONS AGAIN?
  2. Wellness: IF YOU DON'T LOOK AFTER YOURSELF WHO WILL? : PATIENCE
  3. Weight Loss: FOOD FOR THOUGHT AND THOUGHTS ON FOOD : ESTIMATING
  4. THOUGHTS FROM MY SWING: HAVE A HAPPY!

1: PERSONAL LIFE COACHING: HO! HUM! IS IT REALLY TIME FOR NEW YEAR'S RESOLUTIONS AGAIN?

New Year's resolutions are a superb idea. Do you ever wonder why they so often fail? Individuals make promises like "I'm going to be neat(er)" or "I'm going to lose 40 (or 20 or 60 or 100) pounds." I don't question the intent. When people make resolutions they truly believe that this is how change happens and this time it's really going to work! I'm not sure why resolutions often don't work but I have an idea: New Year's resolutions are really made by gremlins. Everyone has his/her own individualized gremlin; that alternate voice inside that wants to run the show according to the way things "ought" to be. It's the gremlin that labels you "sloppy" and forces you into the resolution while in reality "neat" just isn't your style.

That same voice prevents you from loving yourself at whatever size you are, using adjectives like unlovable, unworthy, and unattractive and coerces you into the "have to lose weight" resolve.

Why not forget about the New Year's declarations and start now to think about how you really want to live your life? Head for the dollar store to pick up a journal if you don't already have one and jot down your personal thoughts of how you want to be in 2006 and for the rest of your life. Let go and dare to dream!

Face the noise and turn it into music. Is your career draining excessive energy? Are you feeling stale and bored with life? Is the state of your home overwhelming you? Are there precious relationships suffering from neglect or disharmony? Change isn't easy. But, it can be done with the right motivation and support. The first step in making any change is noticing the unhappiness or discomfort that exists and honestly assessing how important it is for you to make changes. Set your sights high and create some measurable, attainable goals for the new year. Need some help? I'm here.

2: WELLNESS: IF YOU DON'T LOOK AFTER YOURSELF WHO WILL? : PATIENCE!

Becoming a coach has changed me. I've learned so much about myself and have grown in very conscious ways. I now appreciate that every person is the authority on his/her life. I'm just there to help uncover their answers. I've become softer and gentler. I've learned to listen more acutely because everyone has something genuinely interesting to say.

These changes have been sections of a deliberately traveled road that goes on forever. My latest and greatest challenge on that road is to learn Patience. Mysteriously, this is not an issue in my work. But, in my personal life, my quest for patience could sometimes earn me an Oscar. I can appear to be patient when the churning inside is tumultuous! Whether it's in the lineup at the grocery store, behind the wheel of my car or completing a personal task that takes longer than it should, that agitated feeling surfaces far too often. Occasionally, I notice what's going on and give myself the lecture on perspectives. "Lynda, why not use this as an opportunity for thinking?" Or, "Lynda, here's a chance to do some deep breathing to de-stress". This takes real work and so far I'm not feeling very successful.

So, why does this fall into the 'Wellness' section? Simply because it causes me a lot of stress and reducing stress helps people stay well. It seems so simple and logical - just chill, but....
I'll continue to work at it but would appreciate words of wisdom from anyone out there who has the answers. So, that's my wellness challenge. What's yours?

3: WEIGHT LOSS: FOOD FOR THOUGHT AND THOUGHTS ON FOOD : ESTIMATING

People who fail to lose weight both underestimate by up to 50 % the number of calories they eat and overestimate by 50 % the amount of energy they expend. For most bodies, the math for weight loss can be simply explained. If you take in calories (often referred to as energy), that your body doesn't use, you gain weight. If your calories "in" equal your calories "out", you stay the same. If you use more energy than you take in, you lose - thus (and forgive me, please) if you use, you lose.

To stay on top of the game, count the calories that you eat, using a chart on the internet or a book indicating the number of calories in all types of foods. As for the calories burned: the average 150 lb. person burns 1500 to 1800 calories carrying on normal body functions and moving through their day. Here are some examples of how 30 minutes of various activities burn calories:
  • sleeping 35 calories
  • strenuous gardening or walking (15 min. mile) 150 calories
  • high intensity aerobics 350 calories
  • running hard 400 calories
The heavier you are, the more calories you burn.

While you are in the dollar store, pick up another journal and record every morsel that passes through your lips. It is one of the most effective ways of making yourself truly accountable and a super boost for will power!

Your body is it's own calculator: it cannot be fooled if you underestimate calories taken in or overestimate energy expended - it knows!

12 Week Weight Loss Teleclass starts Monday Jan 16, 8 p.m. eastern.
It's one hour/week on a small group call plus three extra individual coaching sessions to get you the support and awareness that you need to lose the weight that's challenging your present and/or future health. We'll address your relationship with food and your body, self esteem, handling stress, the influence of media and a multitude of ups and downs of weight loss. There's no judgment and great support and encouragement from me as well as the other participants.

Don't let another year or even month go by without addressing this major issue. For more information, feel free to call 416-225-3535 or email lyndawise@yahoo.com The cost is $200 for the whole program. Save someone's life! Tell her about this opportunity.

Individual weight loss coaching is also available.

4:THOUGHTS FROM MY SWING: HAVE A HAPPY!

I send you my wishes for a happy everything! Whatever you wish for yourself is what I hope 2006 brings you. Don't be afraid to help things along because I know you can make great things happen.

Merry Christmas! Happy Chanukah! Happy New Year!

Warm wishes, Lynda


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