|WISE WORDS by Lynda Wise|
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Lynda Wise, B.Sc., C.P.C.C..
Weight Loss and Wellness Coach
What's in it for you? A connection, some challenges, a few questions to encourage you to simply reflect about how you live your life versus how you want to live your life. Feel free to share the answers with me: I'd love to hear from you. It's an opportunity to focus on where you'd like to change and grow.
IN THIS ISSUE:
1: "YOU DON'T HAVE TO BE A VERY BIG PERSON TO CARRY A BIG GRUDGE".
I recently came across this great quote - unfortunately, no author. It got me thinking about grudges and the energy they zap. Let's call the bearer of the grudge "the owner" and the focus of the grudge "the wrong doer". So, every time the owner thinks of the wrong doer or the situation surrounding the source of the conflict, they're likely to feel anger, frustration, incompletion, distraction and a host of other negative, draining emotions. I question what if any are the benefits of not letting go. The wrong doer goes free while the owner is held hostage by his/her own thoughts.
Now suppose that one were to admit that the grudge was draining energy and serving no purpose, then how does one let go of such a thing? I don't believe that a single solution exists but here are a few ideas.
2: WHAT DOES LOOKING AFTER YOURSELF MEAN?
Each of us has unique needs when it comes to self care. Have you ever really asked yourself what it means for you? In case you'd like to take a conscious peek, here are a few places to look.
Physical health: eating habits, adequate exercise, cleanliness, regular check ups, tending to minor injuries and weaknesses before they become major
Mental Health: getting enough sleep, having a balance of work and play, section 1 above, seeking professional support when needed i.e. psychiatrist, psychologist, psychotherapist or coach
Emotional Health: acknowledging emotions, dealing with them - not denying them, deal with your stressors
Social Health: connecting with family and or friends regularly, having individuals nearby with whom you can share your challenges
Occupational Health: being respected and appreciated, being paid according to your value, wanting to go to work each day
Spiritual Health: meditation and or prayer, filling your time with meaningful activities (please see section 4 below)
3: MORE SNACKS: READERS' SUGGESTIONS AND MORE
Last month I asked for your favourite healthy snack - weighing in at less than 150 calories. Here are a few of the suggestions that readers offered:
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4: WHAT LIGHTS YOU UP?
I feel very fortunate to be a Life Coach. Being even a small part of someone's 'aha' moments brings significant rewards.
In order to expand 'feeling fortunate' to the rest of my life, I try to occupy my free time with some activities that light me up.
These hobbies truly contribute to my quality of life. I'm not necessarily talking about serious stuff - this is pure pleasure.
So, here I go confessing. First, I love playing Scrabble. Of course I'd rather do well, but win or lose, I have a great time. And I'm insatiable! Finish one match, start the next and never get enough. Do you think there's such a thing as a healthy addiction? I play with friends, at a Scrabble club, in local tournaments or at national competitions and never get enough! It's frustrating at times but definitely a 10 on a 1 to 10 rating for pleasure.
Then there's tennis. It is my most non-painful/pleasurable way to get exercise. It is genuine fun. Time flies. Competition is seriously friendly: ironically my competitors and I often forget the score. A successful shot down the line or cross court feels amazing. I feel so good when I've finished the game. I would definitely play even if it wasn't called exercise.
So here are some things for you to think about: how consciously do you fill your free time with satisfying activities? What would you like to be doing that simply hasn't happened? What steps can you take to create activities in your spare time that really light you up? It would be great to read your answers at email@example.com.
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