WISE WORDS by Lynda Wise
37 Rockland Dr
Toronto, Ontario
M2M 2Y8
Lynda Wise, B.Sc., C.P.C.C..
Personal Coach
Weight Loss and Wellness Coach
416-225-3535
lyndawise@yahoo.com
http://www.wisecoaching.ca
July 2005
Issue 3

Welcome

What's in it for you? A connection, some challenges, a few questions to encourage you to simply reflect about how you live your life versus how you want to live your life. Feel free to share the answers with me: I'd love to hear from you. It's an opportunity to focus on where you'd like to change and grow.

IN THIS ISSUE:

1: Personal Life Coaching: THE FACTS OF LIFE COACHING : Stress
2: Wellness: IF YOU DON'T LOOK AFTER YOURSELF WHO WILL? : Prioritizing You
3: Weight Loss: FOOD FOR THOUGHT AND THOUGHTS ON FOOD : Save a Life
4: THOUGHTS FROM MY SWING: What's the point of complaining?

1: THE FACTS OF LIFE COACHING : STRESS

Recently, I was looking for a definition of 'stress' and repeatedly found phrases like: resulting from a strong external stimuli; state of mental or emotional strain or suspense developing from mental, physical or emotional causes; difficulty causing worry or emotional tension; disturbance to a person's normal state of well being; etc.

In eight definitions, there seemed to be one area of agreement: people were victims of stress. Basically, stress was a negative state which happened to people. Hard as it is to argue with eight authorities, I beg to differ. My belief is that stress is our reaction to what happens to us. Here's my argument: Suppose two guests were accidentally dumped into the pool at a poolside cocktail party. Their reactions were vastly different. The first could not stop laughing and proceeded to drip dry with a fresh glass of wine in hand. The second was totally upset and promptly left the party. So, I ask - was being dumped in the pool a stressful situation? What do YOU think? This brings to mind a vitally important question: how much can we control our own stress? Next month - HOW?

2: WELLNESS: IF YOU DON'T LOOK AFTER YOURSELF WHO WILL? : PRIORITIZING YOU

Most of us have multiple responsibilities. Many of us are juggling at least a few of these - careers, homes, gardens, partners, children, parents, extended family, friends, courses, and eventually our own workouts. By prioritizing, one tends to focus on the items near the top, while the areas with lower priorities are less likely to get done. I suspect that for at least some of you, your own workouts are indeed toward the bottom of your list. Moving that up the list might be construed as a selfish step and could result in neglecting some of the other demands. But, how about rethinking the effects of scheduling your workouts first. Suppose that the increase in your energy would provide you with more stamina and enthusiasm for all the other responsibilities? Suppose that the workouts brought better general health and more resistance to disease, thus, fewer days off work and more enjoyment of life? Suppose the increased activity level brought a more acceptable body form, a growth in self esteem and a happier you? I challenge you for the next month to schedule your workouts first!

3: WEIGHT LOSS: FOOD FOR THOUGHT AND THOUGHTS ON FOOD : SAVE A LIFE

How would you feel if you saved someone's life? You might be doing just that by telling a woman you know about my 12 week weight loss teleclass that addresses the underlying issues that provoke overeating and self neglect: issues of self esteem, sabotage by self and others, identifying the stressors that lead to overeating and of course the knowledge and motivation surrounding proper eating and getting adequate exercise. This opportunity, starting the first week in September is all done on the telephone with the safety that only anonymity can provide. It's for women 20-60, with 20 to 60 lbs. to lose and 20-60% of the self esteem that they need to be successful. The cost is $200 for 12 one hour classes plus 3 mini individual coaching sessions. I'd be delighted to answer questions from anyone who's interested. Please pass this along: save a life!

4:THOUGHTS FROM MY SWING: WHAT'S THE POINT OF COMPLAINING?

I'm generally happy to listen to friends and family beef. However, I can no longer bear to let the precious minutes of my life be wasted listening to complaints about the weather. My tennis partner actually turned to me during a match this week and said "I'm so hot". I'm not sure what she expected during the summer and during a challenging tennis match. Others have indicated that they can't go outside in this awful weather. Some complain when it rains. A few complain when there's a day that's simply cloudy. My gut response which I'm getting close to blurting is 'Get over it'. However, I'm curious to know what's in it for the complainer. Does it really make people feel better? Does it affect the outcome of the ongoing weather? Does it help people avoid intimate conversation? Why do people complain?

All individual Coaching is done by telephone.
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an interactive coaching workshop,
or a speaker for a meeting or a conference,
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416-225-3535 or lyndawise@yahoo.com
http://www.wisecoaching.ca

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