37 Rockland Dr
Toronto, Ontario
M2M 2Y8

Lynda Wise
B.Sc., C.P.C.C.  
Certified Professional Co-active Coach

Helping women reshape their bodies and their baggage!

Weight Loss and Well-being Coach

May 2008
Issue 37


What's in it for you?  A connection, some challenges, a few questions to encourage you to simply reflect about how you live your life versus how you want to live your life.   Feel free to share the answers with me:  I'd love to hear from you.   This is an invitation to focus on where you'd like to change and grow.  


Coach or therapist?

Water, water everywhere - which drop can you drink?

A riddle

A scary question

1:  Coach or therapist?  

The prime underlying assumption of coaching is that the client is creative, resourceful and whole.   The client is the expert on her/his life.   The coach is the prompter, the motivator and the guide but not the expert on anyone's life (except for her/his own) and certainly not the fixer.  Coaches are trained to facilitate their clients' personal scrutiny of present behaviours and future desires for how they want their lives to be.  Often the client is simply stuck in a place from which they cannot move without an outside perspective and push.   Coaching is forward-focused and forward-driven.  

A patient often engages in therapy in order to be fixed by the therapist.   The therapist has been trained to identify deep thoughts and behaviours that have developed from the patient's past experiences.   Once the issues of the past are resolved the patient can move forward.

In the complicated world we live in, it is normal to seek out professional help in resolving personal issues.  There is no simple recipe that can be applied to all individuals or situations.  If you or someone you know wishes to seek outside help, feel free to contact me for a free consult to determine what type of help will be most effective. 416-225-3535 or lyndawise@yahoo.com

The 12 Week Weight Loss Forever Telephone Group is starting again on July 8.
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Lose the weight in 2008!  

2:  Water, water everywhere:  which drop can you drink?  

Last month's water discussion (in case you missed it please click on http://wisecoaching.ca/newsletters/ezine_Apr_2008.htm) ended with a few questions.   Can you drink too much water?   What can happen?   Bottled or tap?   As I was growing up, I recall that one of my mother's favourite expressions was "everything in moderation".   Was she right with regard to how much water to drink?

In California in 2007, a 28 year old mother of 3 participated in a water drinking contest and died a few hours later of water intoxication.  It was estimated that she drank about 2 gallons of water in a 1-2 hour period of time.   Water intoxication is a rare condition that results from an imbalance of electrolytes.   It has been named as the cause of death for a number of marathon runners who died after their runs.   In cases where there's a huge amount of sweating, athletes can become dehydrated.  In an effort to hydrate, they drink huge amounts of water in a short period of time.   Their kidneys are unable to process the excessive amount of water, causing an inordinately large volume of liquid in the circulatory system.  This causes cells to swell and if the swelling involves the cells in the brain, a person can die. Yes, so once again, my mother was right.   Water drinking contests are out - keeping moderately hydrated, as discussed last month, is definitely in.

As for the bottled or tap water debate - that's a toughy!   You won't find a conclusion here but here are some points to ponder:
  • Most areas have rules and systems for testing tap water.   The standards and testing vary greatly from place to place.
  • Often times, tap water contains fluoride which is good for teeth.   However, there is some scientific evidence that fluoride can be more toxic than lead and only slightly less poisonous than arsenic.  Also, fluoride promotes osteoporosis.   Bottled water seldom has fluoride.
  • Filtered tap water (Brita) can be healthier than non-filtered water.   However when the filtering system isn't changed frequently the bacterial growth can be harmful.   There are other filtered water systems out there.   One is Summit Osmosis and worth checking out at http://www.summitosmosis.com/presentation.html
  • Bottled water comes from a variety of sources, some of which are not regulated e.g., that 'spring water' may be laced with mercury.
  • Water going to our taps gets tested and treated (we trust) but few of us know what happens in the pipes within our individual homes.
  • From a cost standpoint, bottled water can be 3000 times the price of tap water.  (How can I even consider cost when I'm talking about health?)
  • Headline from Vancouver:   Prozac, Painkillers & Hormones Found in Tap Water; Headline from Montreal:  Kids, pregnant women told not to drink Montreal tap water.
  • Plastic water bottles are a huge cause for debate.   The latest info says that if the triangle on the bottom of the bottle has a 2, 4 or 5, it's better than most.   Stay away from those with 1,3 or 6.   Perhaps use an aluminum (has also experienced bad press) bottle or glass.
  • Plastics do not readily decompose and remain in our environment (estimated 50-80 years).  Also, in the manufacture of plastic bottles, harmful chemicals are frequent emissions and some lead to global warming.
  • Are you going crazy yet?
For more info here's a Canadian government website which might answer some of your questions.

3:  A riddle

What looks like a carb, tastes like a carb, cooks like a carb and metabolizes like a protein?
Answer - Quinoa (pronounced keenwah)

In its dry state it resembles sesame seeds.   Cooked, it puffs up to make a perfect substitute for pasta or rice.   And the best part is that it has more protein than a 4 oz.  burger.   In case that's not miraculous enough...  a 1/2 c.  serving has the calcium equivalent of 2 c.  milk, plus a great serving of fibre, plenty of iron and magnesium and an assortment of other vitamins and minerals.  

But before you go on a total quinoa diet, thereís something I have to tell you.   You see, the calorie count of a 1/2 cup serving is between 300 and 350 calories.

Again, my mother was right - moderation is the name of the game.  

4:  A scary question  

I belong to a leadership group that meets biweekly by telephone.   The leaders of the call let the rest of us know ahead of time what the topic for discussion will be, so we can think out the answers and be ready to share them on the call.   There's lots of discussion and often topics spill over onto the following call.  Topics usually relate to personal growth and leadership qualities.  I'd like to share our last topic with you along with my reaction which I'm not exactly proud of.  

Here's the question:
      "What are some of the things you'd like to do before you die?"

My first reaction was to avoid thinking about the question altogether.   As the call approached, I really wanted to come up with some answers so I spent some time on my swing looking for them.   But whatever I came up with was refuted with oodles of judgment and censorship.   The mind talk was harsh and endless:  "too ambitious", "very petty", "quite ridiculous", etc. It's ironic - I'm such a believer in setting goals!   I love getting clarity of when and how I wish to tackle and complete certain tasks.   I'm a constant creator of lists of "to-dos" (with tiny little boxes beside each entry) and derive great satisfaction in checking off items as they are done!  I recognize goals as major keys to accomplishment.

So why is this so hard?

Well the call happened and there wasnít time for everyone to answer so I got a stay of execution (pardon the pun) for 2 weeks. Before you read the rest, maybe take a moment to think through how you would answer........

Well I still havenít come up with my final (interesting choice of word) thoughts but coincidentally, a random email I received helped to put things into perspective.   The essence was really quite simple.   Some of the things we do in life are important, not because of their grandeur, but rather because of the impact they have on the lives of others - especially those we love.   It brought me to both reality and common sense about my list. It needn't be earth shattering or dramatic.   And that realization simplifies the task considerably!

It's still not easy.   I'm thinking the last 'd' word in the question is what makes this so difficult.  So when I'm ready to complete my answer, I'll just remove "before I die", and figure out how Iíll be making the world around me a slightly better place in subtle yet significant ways.   And I'll also have things on my list that are born in a place of innocent curiosity and delicious fun.

And you?

Wishing you what you wish for yourself.  

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