Helping People Reshape their Baggage and their Bodies  

Lynda Wise
B.Sc., C.P.C.C.
Weight Loss and Wellness Coach

May '13
Issue 96

What's in it for you?    A connection, some challenges, a few questions to encourage you to simply reflect about how you currently live your life versus how you want to live your life.  Feel free to share your thoughts with me;  I'd love to hear from you.  This is an invitation to focus on where you'd like to change and grow.  

Why Would You Ever Want a Coach?

Your Own Spin!

Can You Self-Coach?

1:  Why Would You Ever Want a Coach?

Perhaps this has happened to you...  After a particularly challenging and frustrating incident, you get to pour your heart out to a dear friend.  And just as you've unloaded and started to feel a bit better, her response lands.  "That's pretty bad, but wait 'til you hear what happened to me!"  Our friends are vital and truly wonderful and understandably, they have their own agendas.

Your coach does not.  A coach can give you the invaluable opportunity to vent.  A coach will truly listen to you.  It's so very crucial, with the burdens so many of us carry and the resulting stress in most of our lives, that we feel understood.  And the first step towards understanding is being listened to and being truly heard.  Without the understanding, we can feel alone and perhaps depressed and remain stuck for a very long time.

This is just the springboard of what good life coaches do.  Being heard is the client's first level.   What follows is a plethora of explorations - perspectives, emotions, possibilities, obstacles, and eventually paths, roads and highways to change.

If you've never experienced a coaching session, maybe it's time!  There's no charge or pressure for a thirty minutes trial session, at your convenience on the telephone - and it's often helpful, all by itself.

Feel free to call or email 416-225-3535 or lyndawise@yahoo.com to set up an appointment.
Hope to speak soon!

2:  Your Own Spin

Who did this to us?  Who was it?   That scoundrel.  That miserable sloth who conjured up such a harmful label that impacts our outlook and actions and our future in such a biased way - and so unfairly.  I'm asking because maybe it isn't too late to change this.  Here's the issue: there's an activity that one can find on any 'get healthy' list.  Want to look after your heart?  Work Out.   Want to avoid diabetes?  Work Out.  Want to lose weight?  Work Out.  Want to live longer?  Work Out.  Want to sleep more soundly?  Work Out...  and the list goes on!

We tend to Workout in our spare time, but who wants to 'WORK' through precious minutes and hours?

WORK is often hard, unpleasant, forced - not fun.  The fact that the word WORK is associated with exercise, summons up the concept that exercise is a big fat chore.

Exercise is an opportunity to move our bodies, open the gateways to good health and love and respect our capabilities.

Perhaps changing the 'WORK' part of the word 'Workout' for the whole English-speaking world is a bit too ambitious, but I know you can change your own language so it doesn't have the negative connotation of a bad thing!

In your mind, you can change the term 'workout' to a far more positive image!  How about a Playout?  Funout?  Buildout?  (Please not Burnout!!!)   

Think of all the exercise opportunities that really are enjoyable.  For me it's tennis, NIA (dance/exercise), Zumba, walking with a friend, swimming.....and the list goes on!

So, if you have difficulties launching your Workouts, maybe it's time to re-frame - and even find some new ones that you could honestly call fun!

3:  Can You Self-Coach? Well, that's a stretch!

First off, it's probably impossible to be really unbiased in reference to yourself.  Next, it's often difficult to really hear our own inner conversations with an impartial ear.    Furthermore, it's often really challenging to change perspective on our own.  And the list goes on.

But here's what you can start with to get yourself moving, when there's a situation in your life that you're totally fed up with and there's no coach available to you...  (like on that desert island with no Skype and dead batteries).

Give yourself a chunk of time (maybe a half hour to start) and ask yourself (take time to really think) and then answer the following questions/directions:
Then go for it.

  1. Describe the scenario that's getting you down.
  2. Describe the emotions you feel as a result.
  3. Think how you'd like the situation to be.
  4. Then, think how you would feel. Take your time and really explore.
  5. What's one tiny step you could take to get going?
  6. When could you do it?
  7. When will you do it?
  8. Write it down somewhere that you'll see it.
  9. Need a reward?   Some special reading time?   Seeing a movie?  A glass of wine?
Sometimes it will work and sometimes not.  How badly do you want it?  How good are you at change?  How disciplined are you?  Keep thinking of how good it could feel.

Still challenged?  You've got my number.

I'm wishing you whatever you wish for yourself!

*It will be my pleasure to treat you to a gift certificate for each referral who becomes a client!

To arrange for a complimentary coaching consultation,
an interactive coaching workshop,
or a speaker for a meeting or a conference,
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416-225-3535 or lyndawise@yahoo.com
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