WISE WORDS by Lynda Wise
37 Rockland Dr
Toronto, Ontario
M2M 2Y8
Lynda Wise, B.Sc., C.P.C.C..
Personal Coach
Weight Loss and Wellness Coach
416-225-3535
lyndawise@yahoo.com
http://www.wisecoaching.ca
November 2005
Issue 7

Welcome!

What's in it for you? A connection, some challenges, a few questions to encourage you to simply reflect about how you live your life versus how you want to live your life. Feel free to share the answers with me: I'd love to hear from you. It's an opportunity to focus on where you'd like to change and grow.

IN THIS ISSUE:
  1. Personal Life Coaching: THE FACTS OF LIFE COACHING : 'TIS THE SEASON TO BE JOLLY!
  2. Wellness: IF YOU DON'T LOOK AFTER YOURSELF WHO WILL? : A BROKEN RECORD
  3. Weight Loss: FOOD FOR THOUGHT AND THOUGHTS ON FOOD : SOCIAL EATING
  4. THOUGHTS FROM MY SWING: MODESTY

1: THE FACTS OF LIFE COACHING : 'TIS THE SEASON TO BE JOLLY!

Holiday buzz is starting. Parties are scheduled: invitations flood the mail and email. Family gatherings are eagerly planned. Shopping is executed in beautifully decorated shops. Busy friends eagerly anticipate the time for reunions and the sharing and renewed intimacy that comes with them. The warmth and spirit of the season are blossoming. 'Tis the season to be jolly.

But, sometimes that is a tall order! Time becomes more precious as you juggle it to accommodate the many celebrations and simple get-togethers so nobody feels neglected. The joy of giving is often an expensive challenge which could leave your January finances hungry. Sometimes, family members have been known to love each other more than like each other and being together offers tensions and conflicts. First time holidays without someone you've lost summon up sadness and regrets. Obligations to entertain create resentments. A single person without family has all kinds of extra reminders about their aloneness and perhaps loneliness. Holiday stress is commonplace.

But once again I quote Nietzsche who said "you cannot always determine what happens to you but you can control your attitudes and actions." That control becomes easier when you anticipate. So I ask you, "What are your intentions for the holidays?" Sometimes foreseeing the pitfalls allows you to fill in the holes and prepare yourself for a smoother ride. Perhaps you can: prepare a comeback for your brother-in-law's sarcasm; protect the budget with your nose for great bargains; commit to some quiet times in your calendar to guard against overwhelm. And check out the suggestions in the Wellness sections below.

2: WELLNESS: IF YOU DON'T LOOK AFTER YOURSELF WHO WILL? : A BROKEN RECORD

Dealing with holiday stress is obviously no different from dealing with stress during the rest of the year. You might just need a few extra reminders to take care of yourself! Here are just five tips that can nurture you enough so you can truly enjoy the season:
  • make sleep a priority, allowing 7 to 8 1/2 hours each night according to what your body needs
  • insist on maintaining your exercise routine or start one
  • take frequent time outs to assess the best way to handle a situation
  • get ultra-organized
  • eat frequently in a healthy way.

These simple nurturing measures will prepare you to approach any added pressure with full resources. Theres so much joy out there. EnJOY it!

3: WEIGHT LOSS: FOOD FOR THOUGHT AND THOUGHTS ON FOOD : SOCIAL EATING

In June's ezine, I talked about conscious eating. (Found at www.wisecoaching.ca/newsletters/ezine_June_2005.htm) How are you doing with recording what you eat and eating only from a plate, not a package? There needs to be more said about conscious eating, and perhaps the best way to increase your consciousness about this issue is through a few questions: If you are engaged in a great conversation when dining out, how much do you appreciate what goes in your mouth? If you nibble while chatting at a party with a drink in one hand and munchies in the other, how much do you appreciate what goes in your mouth? If you eat while on the telephone, how much do you appreciate what goes in your mouth? And if your TV watching goes hand in hand with snacking, how much do you appreciate what goes in your mouth?

Generally, eating and drinking and social life are inseparable. The trick is not to give up on the eating and drinking in social situations, but rather to remain conscious of the pleasure it brings as you eat and drink. Heightening your consciousness and enhancing your pleasure makes you far less likely to overindulge during the holiday season. Some restraint throughout the holiday season could create the post-holiday season as another 'season to be jolly'!

But just in case you wish to get into better shape in the new year - The 12 Week Weight Loss Group Teleclasses begin on Jan. 16, 2006 at 8:00 p.m. eastern. Here's the opportunity to review and revise your eating plan so that it suits your lifestyle for life! Here's the perfect time to say no to your sedentary, self-defeating, non-action for life. And then there's the support you need to face the way you deal with stress and how stress relates to your eating. If self esteem is an obstacle, let's deal with it! And here's the group of individuals that can share so many other weight related issues with you so you can increase your chances of being on this earth in a healthier form for a longer time. Feel free to pass this on to others and/or contact me for more information. 416-225-3535 or lyndawise@yahoo.com

4:THOUGHTS FROM MY SWING: MODESTY

Modesty is generally regarded as a positive trait. Immodesty invites labels such as showoff, braggart, cocky, none of which are complimentary. Merriam Webster defines modesty as freedom from deceit or vanity. There seems to be a fine line between admitting one's capability and being vain! Now, we all have some tasks that we do well. Most of us have some tasks which we do really well. But society says that we must be very careful how we admit it to others - rather, wait until someone else recognizes our capability or accomplishment and then compliments us. So, if I've got this right, we work hard to develop a competency yet it's inappropriate to share the fact that we are competent. I wonder - are we allowed to admit to ourselves that were getting good at something? If the answer is no what happens to self esteem? If the answer is yes then is it deceitful to keep quiet when someone asks Who can do such-and-such well? My wonderful mother was a very modest woman. Yet, her advice to her daughters was if you dont toot your own horn, no-one else will. What do you think?


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