WISE WORDS by Lynda Wise
37 Rockland Dr
Toronto, Ontario
M2M 2Y8

Lynda Wise
B.Sc.  , C.P.C.C.  
Weight Loss Coach
Well Being Coach

Helping women reshape their bodies
and their baggage
October 2007
Issue 30


What's in it for you?  A connection, some challenges, a few questions to encourage you to simply reflect about how you live your life versus how you want to live your life.   Feel free to share the answers with me:  I'd love to hear from you.   It's an invitation to focus on where you'd like to change and grow.  


An awakening for me...And you.  

The exercise dilemma.  

Trick or treat?

In the moment.  

1:  An awakening for me...And you.  

Have you ever noticed that people often are able to advocate for the rest of the world and fall short when it comes to advocating for themselves?  I'll readily raise funds for the cancer hospital but the thought of a cold call to sell my coaching services creates angst along with internal summersaults.   And I make a leap - the whole world hates to make and receive cold calls.  Obviously.  Agree? 

Now a recent dinner with a friend in sales taught me quite a different perspective.  He was describing a situation where he entered a store that he'd never been to before because he thought his product would fit with what the store was selling.   His eyes were shining along with a Cheshire cat smile as he described how it was for him to connect with someone completely new.  His enthusiasm was crystal clear.  I asked him why he derived pleasure from this (dreaded) act.  He explained how he loved the drama and suspense before coming in for the "sell".  Whenever he heard a "no" it became an even more appealing and exciting prospect to approach them the next time.  And, of course, a "yes" was a bonus.  

He started me wondering how I can change my own perspective on cold calls.   And I'm working on it.   And having my coach is helping.  I'm stuck in a really stubborn mindset!  And I'll continue working on it.  I am delving into how a perspective might be holding me back and how adapting a different perspective could serve me in a better way. 

I wonder.  Might there be limiting perspectives in your life that warrant some scrutiny?

Feel free to call or email.  416-225-3535 lyndawise@yahoo.com

2:  The exercise dilemma.  

After an extended and well documented study the Institute of Medicine in the United States came out with the following statement. 
"To maintain optimal cardiovascular health, a good body weight, and a favorable body composition, we really ought to be exercising at least an hour a day.  " 
Some equally reputable health officials say that 30 minutes of exercise on most days is enough.   Quite a discrepancy!  Notice the word "maintain".  

Consider aerobic exercise, weight training and stretching exercises each a couple or more times a week along with the responsibilities of work and family.  Voila!  That supposed euphoria created by regular exercise quickly turns to resentment, a frazzled state and frustration since there's literally no down time at all.   So, how much exercise is enough?

Do blanket statements about how much is enough apply equally to the 50 year old female, the young jock and the "senior" guy?    How much adjustment is relevant to someone primarily interested in supporting his/her health, or someone wanting to lose weight or a person aching to get back his/her six pack abs?   Will someone who has never exercised before fall under the same guidelines as a fitness queen or a jogging junkie?  

I love this statement by Jacqueline Stenson, Contributing editor, MSNBC: If you can engage in vigorous exercise for an hour a day without making yourself crazy, crippling yourself, losing your job, or instigating a divorce, then by all means do so.  But if you are a mere mortal, then at least try to go for a walk every day.  Twenty minutes of moderate daily activity won't make the pounds melt off or give you the same body composition as Frank Shorter (the runner) or the Williams sisters (tennis), but it will make a real impact on your cardiovascular health.  

Here are the bottom lines:
  1. Exercise is unquestionably good for you. 
  2. Every little bit helps: park your car or get off the bus a few blocks away from your destination; take the stairs instead of the elevator; and/or put on the TV music station and dance during the commercials of your favourite show!     It all adds up. 
  3. No-one really knows what's ideal for you better than you!   Are you aiming to look good or is your motive to maximize your body's potential to fight disease?   How much time do you have available to genuinely commit to exercising?    How much money can you spend on a personal trainer or a gym membership or a home treadmill?    Consider the parameters and then design what will work for you.  

And MOST important of all...Schedule what activities you LIKE to do.  The perks of exercise are here for the long run!   Following through on a program that you like will maximize the chances that you are too!

3:   Trick or treat?

As a weight Loss coach I'll share a secret: I've made friends with the devil!   My parents each had a sweet tooth and I inherited 32 of them.   I thoroughly enjoy something sweet almost daily.  And I have adapted an attitude that works.   Here it is: I am entitled to totally, utterly and completely enjoy a sweet treat worth about 100 calories, daily. 

This attitude comes with a few strings:
  1. Throughout every day, I eat healthy foods in appropriate amounts: tons of veggies and fruit, protein at every meal, a little unsaturated fat and complex carbs.  
  2. I am allowed no guilt.  I notice and emphatically enjoy every bite of my treat.  
  3. I am allowed no seconds on treats.  

When my children were small, we did what all good parents do: we raided their trick or treat bags and ate up all the things that weren't good for them!   (The sacrifice!)    Ouch!    Halloween can be a great time for rationalization... it's so bad for their teeth; it's so small; how can just one more hurt? 

Party's over!    Here's my present spin on Halloween treats: being able to eat an entire chocolate bar, albeit one or 2 bites, is so much easier than having a quarter of a bar or a handful of candies from a big bag.   

I now challenge you to adopt my "Maximum of one treat a day" rule.    And if you're trying to lose a few pounds, how about making it every second day or a 50 calorie treat!    Halloween makes it so doable!   How's that for a different perspective?  

In case you missed the opportunity to join in the 12 Week Weight Loss Teleclass Group  in October, keep an eye out for announcements for the next ones.    Or, feel free to let me know when you're ready to join a group and I'll do what I can to put one together.    I love facilitating these groups and witnessing the successes that their participants enjoy! I welcome all calls or emails for more information.  

416-225-3535 or lyndawise@yahoo.com

4:  In the moment.  

Ekhart Tolle is a spiritualist and author of "A New Earth".    I'm presently and thankfully part of a group sharing questions and snippets of insights that come up as we read through it.  Mostly, I'm filled with questions and am fascinated with the insights of the others in the group. 

But there is one recurring theme which is a carry over from his first book "The Power of Now" that I am trying ever so hard to digest and incorporate into my life.    Namely that this moment is the one that really matters - not the moments of the past or those in the future.    I'm trying hard not to live in wistfulness, regret or anticipation! 

As I spend a few minutes on my swing on this rainy, fall day, I try very hard not to miss the glorious sunny days behind nor dread the frigid ones ahead.    My effort is applied to simply noticing the drops of rain and the changing colours and the sound of two children walking home from school - and accepting things just the way they are. 

Wishing you what you wish for yourself.  Meanwhile, hope you enjoy the moment.  

It will be my pleasure to treat you to a gift certificate for each referral who becomes a client!

To arrange for a complimentary coaching consultation,
an interactive coaching workshop,
or a speaker for a meeting or a conference,
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