Helping People Reshape their Baggage and their Bodies  

Lynda Wise B.Sc., C.P.C.C.  
Weight Loss and Wellness Coach

September '12
Issue 88

What's in it for you?  A connection, some challenges, a few questions to encourage you to simply reflect about how you currently live your life versus how you want to live your life.  Feel free to share your thoughts with me;  I'd love to hear from you.  This is an invitation to focus on where you'd like to change and grow.  

1.  PERSONAL LIFE COACHING:   Who's on Your Team?

Little things mean a lot!

3.  THOUGHTS FROM MY SWING:   Whose responsibility is it?

1:  Who's on your team?

There are people in our lives who, obviously, are on our team; they clearly want what's best for us.   They're encouraging and complimentary and supportive whenever possible.   They cheerlead our efforts, feel joy with our successes and commiserate when we fail.   They're the best!

Then there are the individuals who cannot seem to rejoice in our victories.   Regardless of what they say or how they say it, there seems to be some holding back when things are going well for us.   And when things aren't going well, they seem to relish in our slump rather than help us dig ourselves out.   Your feelings toward their behaviour range from frustration to defensiveness to anger, with lots of other possibilities in between.   Sometimes loving them or liking them isn't easy.

Sometimes they just don't feel like team members.  

Anyone come to mind?   How can you deal with the situation and the relationship?  

Sometimes a heart-to-heart can clear the air and shed light on the attitude but many of us find initiating that conversation extremely difficult - confrontation is just not our thing.   But without that conversation, they simply are not going to change.  

That leaves just you to do the changing!   And here's where you can grab hold of your full power!   By acknowledging and recognizing that this issue is so not about you, you can free yourself to indulge in emotions such as compassion and sympathy.   In some cases, if these individuals felt self love and self confidence and regarded themselves as successful, they'd be able to appreciate and celebrate you, too.  

Make them a member of your team by boosting them up whenever you possibly can.   Treat them as you, yourself, want to be treated.   As you help them with their own issues, they'll hopefully learn to share in and applaud the success of others, including you.  

2:  Little Things Mean a Lot

This might not be new but often we need refreshers so here we go, again.  

Staying in shape for life is challenging for most of us.   The more we incorporate good habits, the better fit that healthy lifestyle becomes.   Workouts of one sort or another are a must, but beyond the time set aside for official muscle development and aerobics, there are daily teensy steps that you can take that will ingrain that change or continuity of motion.

I'll give you a few examples but everyone's life is different so give yourself permission to contemplate and create how to incorporate the significant mini-bits into your natural way of being.

  • Leave the door-opening buttons created for those with special needs to those who really need them - opening the door manually activates your muscles.  
  • Take the stairs instead of the elevator/escalator.
  • Never sit for more than 30 minutes (if you can help it) at your computer/TV.  Take frequent stretch or meander breaks - and sorry, heading for the refrigerator just doesn't count.
  • Off to the mall?   Park in the first spot you see - not the closest one.
  • Just a few things to pick up at the grocery store?   Bypass the shopping cart - carry your stuff and wake up your muscles.
  • Not too many dishes to wash?   Stand at the sink and do the manual thing instead of sticking them in the dishwasher.
Small portions of activity impact in a couple of ways:  they actually make you feel good about the healthy choices you're making and also, they really do burn off a few calories.  Burning just 25 calories/day adds up to a loss of about 3 lbs./year with very little sacrifice.....50 calories extra/day can add up to a 6-pound weight loss in a year!  

Worth a try?

How can you adjust your personal habits to burn, baby, burn???

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3:  Whose responsibility is it?

Some random thoughts:
Peanut allergies - no peanut butter in schools.   Feather allergies - beware of some pillows.   Perfume allergies - lots of sneezing, flu symptoms, hives, etc.   Lactose intolerant - no dairy products.   Egg allergies - better read the labels of everything.  Gluten free - some comfort foods come at a price.   No salt - flavour challenges.   Cat or dog allergies - no pets allowed or don't dare go near someone who just might have a pet at home and might be carrying some pet hairs.   Chocolate allergies - how sad!   And more.....

What's YOUR special need?   So many of us have developed so many enemies in our environments or diets.   The scientific explanation of why allergies are so much more prevalent now than in the past, is thus far incomplete - nevertheless fascinating.   But that isn't the focus here.   Rather, I'm wondering whose responsibility is it when someone has allergies.

So if there's a bridal shower, should the allergic invitee bring her own lunch or should she let the host know of her difficulty and assume she'll be accommodated?   If one child in a kindergarten class cannot eat fish, should all the children be prevented from bringing tuna?   Does an attendee at a meeting have the right to request that no-one wear perfume or should she not attend the meeting?

Allergies can have a profound effect on our society but how do allergic people stay safe?

Whose responsibility is it?

I'd love to hear what you think!!!

Last month many of you took the time to respond to my query "What's the best way to approach an overweight individual, with the intention to educate him/her about weight loss coaching.....  without offending them?".   Thank you for all your ideas!

This month, I'm asking for your thoughts about the allergy dilemma!   Whose responsibility is it?

Wishing you what you wish for yourself.  

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